Since my blog's title is BookWoman, I thought I better write something about books, my chief passion in life. Washington Post book critic Michael Dirda underreacted recently when an online reader huffed superciliously that one must never write in a book, as every true book lover knows. Sadly, I was too late to enter the chat, but steam was coming out of my ears. Then a few days later, I was horrified when a woman in a book discussion group I was attending said the same thing. I couldn't believe there were two such "book lovers" in the world.
HOW DOES A BOOK LOVER NOT WRITE IN A BOOK? The better the book, the more you need to mark it up. (Except collectibles which you might sell, obviously.) Oh sure, you could use post-its, or keep a notebook with every book you're reading, but then your questions and comments and exclamation points are in one place and the actual words that inspired them are in another. What good is that? One of the things I like about library books and used books is seeing what passages were marked by previous readers. (Exception: highlighting, which should be done only when you have to take a test on the book and then never open it again.) True book lovers of the world, unite, pens in hand!
I just started re-reading Italo Calvino's If on a Winter's Night a Traveler. If you're like me and can never have enough books (or read all the books you have), it's worth a trip to the library or bookstore to enjoy the first few pages of this one, a catalog of all the types of books that can assault you when you walk into a bookstore. My favorite: The Books You've Always Pretended To Have Read And Now It's Time To Sit Down and Really Read Them.
And there I was on the front porch without a pen when I came across this sentence: "Long novels written today are perhaps a contradiction: the dimension of time has been shattered, we cannot love or think except in fragments of time each of which goes off along its own trajectory and immediately disappears." And this was written before the internet! Still, it leads right back to what I wrote yesterday. Don't you love it when that happens?
Monday, September 24, 2007
More joy
The openings to "Sugar Pie Honey Bunch" and "Glory Days."
(click on August to see what this is about.)
(click on August to see what this is about.)
Saturday, September 22, 2007
Gotten any letters lately?
We had some people over for dinner a few days ago, and yesterday I received a lovely, handwritten, mailed-with-a-stamp thank you note! Imagine—something personal in the postal mail!
Like most people, I rarely use paper mail any more. Electronic communication is a wonderful invention, but like all forms of progress, it giveth and it taketh away. It giveth the power to communicate instantaneously with anyone (or a million anyones) anywhere. It taketh away the joy of the letter.
Unlike a polite thank-you note written in a unique hand on a card decorated with Van Gogh’s sunflowers, every piece of electronic communication looks like every other piece. A business memo looks no different than a letter from a friend. Did I say letter? Who writes letters any more? Everything’s a message, and a message is decidedly not a letter. A message is brief, purposeful, ephemeral, impersonal, and decidedly unpoetic (though I’m sure the creative spelling of text messages will one day be studied by linguists and psychologists). A note is also brief and usually single-minded, but it’s written in someone’s uniquely personal handwriting on carefully chosen paper. The writer’s fingerprints are all over it.
Then there’s that obsolete indulgence the letter, the mainstay of written communication among friends and lovers for more than twenty centuries. Letters can be held in your hand, caressed, folded and unfolded until they’re smeared and torn. Letters can be long, meandering, deep, questioning, anguished, hilarious, wise, loving, sad. Letters can reveal yourself to you. Letters can lift your heart and they can break it. It’s hard to imagine an email—or, god forbid, a text message—with that kind of power. Another thing that made letters powerful is that you could linger over them. You rarely got so many that you didn’t have time to pore over them as many times as you wanted. How can you pore over a message when dozens more are always there demanding your attention?
I’ve been writing letters since I could lift a pen, long, detailed, pour-out-your-heart epistles to everyone from Santa Claus and God to grade-school friends I couldn’t get together with over the summer, high school friends who sat three rows away, far-flung college buddies, a beloved aunt who’d just shared her latest favorite read, a boyfriend in a combat zone. I’d spend hours choosing stationery—did I feel pink or purple that day?—and the right pen, my all-time favorite being the Scripto with turquoise ink that conveyed my deepest thoughts at thirteen. I’d write for hours; fifteen or twenty pages wasn’t unusual. And there was nothing like the joy of getting back a bulging, lilac-scented envelope with my girlfriend’s latest experiments in handwriting, or, later, the single page filled with the almost-illegible thoughts of my husband-to-be in combat, signed “My love.” Does anyone type “My love” at the end of an email? Can electronic files possibly replace a stack of love letters tied with a ribbon and kept for generations?
Not only have letters disappeared; now I hear that cursive writing is no longer taught in some schools. “Digital natives” who play with keyboards from the time they can point their fingers don’t need it. Nor will they ever need to guess at the handwriting on an envelope; the sender’s name is the first thing they see. But they’ll never know the sweet thrill of pulling an envelope out of a box and seeing there the familiar scrawl of a person they’ve been waiting to hear from. (Oh, I forgot, waiting is obsolete too.)
Okay, so I’ve lived long enough to sound like an old granny whose every sentence begins with “In my day.” Au contraire, it’s still my day, and I love the convenience of electronic communication. But I’m going to hold on to my flower-covered note cards and take the time to use them now and then. I’m going to occasionally hand-write a letter on paper to my grandson, even if his mother has to read it to him because he doesn’t understand cursive. And I’m going to hope that The Letter—uniquely personal, thoughtful, and occasionally very long—is not entirely replaced by The Message.
Like most people, I rarely use paper mail any more. Electronic communication is a wonderful invention, but like all forms of progress, it giveth and it taketh away. It giveth the power to communicate instantaneously with anyone (or a million anyones) anywhere. It taketh away the joy of the letter.
Unlike a polite thank-you note written in a unique hand on a card decorated with Van Gogh’s sunflowers, every piece of electronic communication looks like every other piece. A business memo looks no different than a letter from a friend. Did I say letter? Who writes letters any more? Everything’s a message, and a message is decidedly not a letter. A message is brief, purposeful, ephemeral, impersonal, and decidedly unpoetic (though I’m sure the creative spelling of text messages will one day be studied by linguists and psychologists). A note is also brief and usually single-minded, but it’s written in someone’s uniquely personal handwriting on carefully chosen paper. The writer’s fingerprints are all over it.
Then there’s that obsolete indulgence the letter, the mainstay of written communication among friends and lovers for more than twenty centuries. Letters can be held in your hand, caressed, folded and unfolded until they’re smeared and torn. Letters can be long, meandering, deep, questioning, anguished, hilarious, wise, loving, sad. Letters can reveal yourself to you. Letters can lift your heart and they can break it. It’s hard to imagine an email—or, god forbid, a text message—with that kind of power. Another thing that made letters powerful is that you could linger over them. You rarely got so many that you didn’t have time to pore over them as many times as you wanted. How can you pore over a message when dozens more are always there demanding your attention?
I’ve been writing letters since I could lift a pen, long, detailed, pour-out-your-heart epistles to everyone from Santa Claus and God to grade-school friends I couldn’t get together with over the summer, high school friends who sat three rows away, far-flung college buddies, a beloved aunt who’d just shared her latest favorite read, a boyfriend in a combat zone. I’d spend hours choosing stationery—did I feel pink or purple that day?—and the right pen, my all-time favorite being the Scripto with turquoise ink that conveyed my deepest thoughts at thirteen. I’d write for hours; fifteen or twenty pages wasn’t unusual. And there was nothing like the joy of getting back a bulging, lilac-scented envelope with my girlfriend’s latest experiments in handwriting, or, later, the single page filled with the almost-illegible thoughts of my husband-to-be in combat, signed “My love.” Does anyone type “My love” at the end of an email? Can electronic files possibly replace a stack of love letters tied with a ribbon and kept for generations?
Not only have letters disappeared; now I hear that cursive writing is no longer taught in some schools. “Digital natives” who play with keyboards from the time they can point their fingers don’t need it. Nor will they ever need to guess at the handwriting on an envelope; the sender’s name is the first thing they see. But they’ll never know the sweet thrill of pulling an envelope out of a box and seeing there the familiar scrawl of a person they’ve been waiting to hear from. (Oh, I forgot, waiting is obsolete too.)
Okay, so I’ve lived long enough to sound like an old granny whose every sentence begins with “In my day.” Au contraire, it’s still my day, and I love the convenience of electronic communication. But I’m going to hold on to my flower-covered note cards and take the time to use them now and then. I’m going to occasionally hand-write a letter on paper to my grandson, even if his mother has to read it to him because he doesn’t understand cursive. And I’m going to hope that The Letter—uniquely personal, thoughtful, and occasionally very long—is not entirely replaced by The Message.
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
I’m out of town, visiting my mother, and I’m using her car to run errands. I don’t know the radio stations here, so I go through her six presets, passing up the pop noise and political rants until I find PBS. But it’s Pledge Week, with all its highbrow yakety-yak. Where’s the Starbucks Channel? BBC? Oprah and Friends? The Heart? Oh, right, those are XM stations. This is my 84-year-old mother’s twelve-year-old car.
No problem. I reach in my purse for my iPod, but realize that I left the connecting device in my own car. I can’t listen to the latest James Lee Burke mystery or sing along with Bono or feel the majesty of Mozart’s Coronation Mass. It’s going to be a long drive.
I stop at WalMart to pick up a new remote control for Mum, because the one she uses for her little twenty-year-old kitchen TV refuses to channel up or down, and there’s no onscreen digital guide. How does she live without the Guide? Or a DVR? She actually knows the day and time of her favorite shows! This is admirable, but sitting through the commercials!? Puh-leeze! And God forbid the phone should ring during Mystery and I can’t hit the pause button and the whole show is ruined.
Oddly, this lack of Essential Features does not leave my mother feeling deprived.
It also doesn’t bother her to live without Caller ID or Call Waiting. You want to know who’s calling you, she says, you pick up the phone. You get a busy signal? You call back later. And what is so important about email and the mysterious internet that I have to lug my laptop to Panera every day to find a connection? Who would want dozens of email messages every day? Isn’t there enough junk in the mailbox?
Techno-glut isn’t the only difference between our lifestyles. There’s the embarrassing number of bags I unload for my three-day visit. My bulging bathroom travel case contains more stuff than Mum’s entire bathroom. Then there’s my main suitcase; my shoe bag; my book bag; my laptop; my electronics bag (digital camera, charger, iPod, charger/speaker, headphones, phone charger [wall], phone charger [car], laptop mouse, flash drive, power cord, spare batteries and portable GPS). Somehow my mother manages to live happily without all this paraphernalia. She’s also strangely healthy for a woman who doesn’t take any pills, and bewildered by the many I take every day. How on earth has this woman lived to be 84?
Then there’s her coffee pot. Her old Mr. Coffee was acting up, so I bought her a new coffee maker with a carafe so the coffee doesn’t burn. But she didn’t like the way it poured, so I tried another multi-featured pot, but she didn’t like that either. Finally I bought a Mr. Coffee just like the one she had, with all the features she wants: Off, On, and the luxurious Delay Brew. And really, it is a good match for the Maxwell House coffee she buys. Me, I sneak out to Starbucks for a hit of Cinnamon Dolce Latte Skim, one “tall” cup of which costs more than her supply for a week.
Oh the life we live, with its ever-multiplying “necessities,” each with new and improved features and its own 80-page manual to study. Being at Mother's also reminds me of the number of things we now pay for that were once free, or at least cost much less. But I guess it's worth it, since they "improve" our lives so much. XM Radio (I use five of the 170 channels). Hi-Def, flatscreen, five-speaker TVs with premium cable and DVR. Subscriptions for audiobooks and movies. Telephones with CW, CID, talking CID, CWCID, one-touch dialing, digital voice, voice recognition, Call Forwarding.
“Essential” kitchen appliances whose functions are so specific they’re used only once or twice a year. An oven so loaded with features that I need the manual every time I cook. A cabinet full of vitamins and health supplements instead of a healthy diet. Hundreds of dollars worth of exercise equipment, ditto. Bottled water instead of tap. Starbucks instead of Maxwell House. Enough remotes and telephones to open a store. Three computers for two people, all with flat screens and wireless mice and high-speed internet. Our Comcast bill is more than the mortgage payment on our first house.
Oh, for the featureless contentment of my mother.
No problem. I reach in my purse for my iPod, but realize that I left the connecting device in my own car. I can’t listen to the latest James Lee Burke mystery or sing along with Bono or feel the majesty of Mozart’s Coronation Mass. It’s going to be a long drive.
I stop at WalMart to pick up a new remote control for Mum, because the one she uses for her little twenty-year-old kitchen TV refuses to channel up or down, and there’s no onscreen digital guide. How does she live without the Guide? Or a DVR? She actually knows the day and time of her favorite shows! This is admirable, but sitting through the commercials!? Puh-leeze! And God forbid the phone should ring during Mystery and I can’t hit the pause button and the whole show is ruined.
Oddly, this lack of Essential Features does not leave my mother feeling deprived.
It also doesn’t bother her to live without Caller ID or Call Waiting. You want to know who’s calling you, she says, you pick up the phone. You get a busy signal? You call back later. And what is so important about email and the mysterious internet that I have to lug my laptop to Panera every day to find a connection? Who would want dozens of email messages every day? Isn’t there enough junk in the mailbox?
Techno-glut isn’t the only difference between our lifestyles. There’s the embarrassing number of bags I unload for my three-day visit. My bulging bathroom travel case contains more stuff than Mum’s entire bathroom. Then there’s my main suitcase; my shoe bag; my book bag; my laptop; my electronics bag (digital camera, charger, iPod, charger/speaker, headphones, phone charger [wall], phone charger [car], laptop mouse, flash drive, power cord, spare batteries and portable GPS). Somehow my mother manages to live happily without all this paraphernalia. She’s also strangely healthy for a woman who doesn’t take any pills, and bewildered by the many I take every day. How on earth has this woman lived to be 84?
Then there’s her coffee pot. Her old Mr. Coffee was acting up, so I bought her a new coffee maker with a carafe so the coffee doesn’t burn. But she didn’t like the way it poured, so I tried another multi-featured pot, but she didn’t like that either. Finally I bought a Mr. Coffee just like the one she had, with all the features she wants: Off, On, and the luxurious Delay Brew. And really, it is a good match for the Maxwell House coffee she buys. Me, I sneak out to Starbucks for a hit of Cinnamon Dolce Latte Skim, one “tall” cup of which costs more than her supply for a week.
Oh the life we live, with its ever-multiplying “necessities,” each with new and improved features and its own 80-page manual to study. Being at Mother's also reminds me of the number of things we now pay for that were once free, or at least cost much less. But I guess it's worth it, since they "improve" our lives so much. XM Radio (I use five of the 170 channels). Hi-Def, flatscreen, five-speaker TVs with premium cable and DVR. Subscriptions for audiobooks and movies. Telephones with CW, CID, talking CID, CWCID, one-touch dialing, digital voice, voice recognition, Call Forwarding.
“Essential” kitchen appliances whose functions are so specific they’re used only once or twice a year. An oven so loaded with features that I need the manual every time I cook. A cabinet full of vitamins and health supplements instead of a healthy diet. Hundreds of dollars worth of exercise equipment, ditto. Bottled water instead of tap. Starbucks instead of Maxwell House. Enough remotes and telephones to open a store. Three computers for two people, all with flat screens and wireless mice and high-speed internet. Our Comcast bill is more than the mortgage payment on our first house.
Oh, for the featureless contentment of my mother.
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